Love YOU first. You are the priority in your life. How you love you, how you see you, how you treat you is going to set the stage and issue the invitation that’ll draw other people in to love you. I would say the top 3 mistakes [people] make when they’re looking for love is, looking for someone outside of themselves to make them happy. Number two would be blocking intimacy. You can be intimate whether you have a love life or not. And three, doubting that they can ever really have the love they desire. The first step towards loving yourself would be looking at everything about you—and being OK with it. If you’re crazy, be okay with it. If you’re skinny, be okay with it. If you’re fat, be okay with it. If you’re short, tall, Black, White, straight, gay—just learn to be okay with who you are, AS you are, right now.
— Iyanla Vanzant [via: mindofataurus]
I have realized; it is during the times I am far outside my element that I experience myself the most. That I see and feel who I really am, the most! I think that’s what a comet is like, you see, a comet is born in the outer realms of the universe! But it’s only when it ventures too close to our sun or to other stars that it releases the blazing “tail” behind it and shoots brazen through the heavens! And meteors become sucked into our atmosphere before they burst like firecrackers and realize that they’re shooting stars! That’s why I enjoy taking myself out of my own element, my own comfort zone, and hurling myself out into the unknown. Because it’s during those scary moments, those unsure steps taken, that I am able to see that I’m like a comet hitting a new atmosphere: suddenly I illuminate magnificently and fire dusts begin to fall off of me! I discover a smile I didn’t know I had, I uncover a feeling that I didn’t know existed in me… I see myself. I’m a shooting star. A meteor shower. But I’m not going to die out. I guess I’m more like a comet then. I’m just going to keep on coming back.
— C. JoyBell C.
You can’t help it. An artist’s duty, as far as I’m concerned, is to reflect the times.
— Nina Simone
As a child I was considered respectful; as a young woman I was called discreet. Later on I was thought to have the wisdom maturity brings. Nowadays silence is looked on as odd and most of my race has forgotten the beauty of meaning much by saying little. Now tongues work all by themselves with no help from the mind. Still, I used to be able to have normal conversations…. Now? No. Barefaced being the order of the day, I hum. The words dance in my head to the music in my mouth.
— Toni Morrison, Love [via: sundaykinfolk.com]
Quality Over Quantity
If power in numbers is a goal for standards, ego, power, or self gratification, it will often fail as it is solely based on one’s desire to attain more and more rather than simplify the goal of an intention or function of a thing. Often, a few friends, a few days, or a singular object can fill our hearts with supreme happiness and gratification. If we keep searching for more and more outside of ourselves and want and want we will look around one day and find nothing but material objects sitting as dead weight taking up space and our thoughts. And empty days passed without knowledge of the true self. But, if we think, choose and spend wisely based on what we really need and can use for self discovery, we will live simply and harmoniously in our life. We will be surrounded by a few things that have an intention, a purpose, and a role. Our company will uplift us not bring us down. Our bills will be in control. We will not keep taking to have more which pollutes the heart and causes us to keep wanting and wanting instead of being still and feeling content with exactly what we have now. Exactly what we might have if our house burned down. Self knowledge and experience. There is a great amount of quality in self knowledge. Self knowledge, as it is revealed to you will eliminate all wants and desires for that which does not serve you. You will live simply in a space that is purified from ego, illusion, and lack of wanting more stuff, notice, fame, name and dwell in a place of ease.
— Tara Hogan: Ink + Wit
There are moments in our lives where we find ourselves at a crossroads. Afraid, confused, without a road map. The choices we make in those moments can define the rest of our days. Of course, when faced with the unknown, most of us choose to turn around and go back. But once in a while, people push on to something better, something found just beyond the pain of going it alone, and just beyond the bravery and courage it takes to let someone in, or give someone a second chance, something beyond the quiet persistence of a dream, because it’s only when you’re tested that you discover who you are, that you discover who you can be. The person you can be does exist, beyond the hard work, faith, belief and beyond the heartache, and fear of what lies ahead.
— One Tree Hill [via: cadburycrazed]
Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.
— Erica Jong [via: adayinthelesbianlife]